You've shown me a new perspective and a way to cope with my situation. Thank you very much for posting this. I have several afflictions, severe ptsd, severe anxiety are some. I finally found someone worth to marry and be with. He is younger than I. In the past few years I thought I almost lost him, doctors were baffled about his seizures that just started. I pushed his neurologist at the emergency room to test him sleeping. We found out he had sleep apnea which I already knew he had. Tests then shows his lung capacity is very low and oxygen levels.
The last emergency room visit really scared me. I believe he died and came back when paramedics arrived. I could see the fear in the paramedics eyes when working on him I should be feeling relieved and thankful to have him but I cannot get this fear of loosing him out of my mind. I am afraid to see him die.. I wonder if my own afflictions amplify my emotions to where I panic constantly something is wrong Luckily he has not had paramedics or emergency room visits this year but I am still afraid I love him deeply and still I stay because I am also worried about him taking care of He loves me deeply and I am lucky to have such a wonderful husband.
I have found him A needle in the haystack is what he is. Nicole B. My sister and me are going through the fear of losing our mom in the next couple of years. I've learned to embrace life and love the people around me to the fullest, but my sister is running from it. She doesn't want to face what may happen and she's letting the fear consume and control her. My anxiety has gotten to a breaking point of realization, that I deal with anxiety. My boyfriend has been receiving the bad part of it.
I have been approaching him about this almost daily, trying to explain to him how it has taken over me and tried to show him that I am getting educated on it through self help podcasts. I continously fear that talking to him has now pushed him away emotionally and drained him. What can I do?
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Hi Jodi, please reply me. I am a new mom of 3montgs boy. We were so happy in our 4years marriage n then being parents, suddenly everything changed. My spouse got a brain stroke after a week of my delivery. He is mostly recovered now but still has clot in brain. He is just 33 and our parenthood just started. I m always worried abt him, that I may loose him.. Can't think of living without him.. Hi, I was in the same situation as yourself many years ago. My husband and father of my three kids had a stroke when my youngest son was 2.
He was only I should mention that I had worried about things happening to him before it did. My husband stroke was bad, however he lived for years, he eventually died of something totally unrelated. Just remember that you cannot change anything by worrying. I learned that the hard way, and at the time controlled my panic by drinking too much.
I am currently going through a depression and anxiety spell, I seem to get this each year around spring time. Hi, I am in relationship and I am afraid of losing him after we move on after completion of course : After one year. I am so afraid It haunts me But it's this anxiety is just not going. I talked to my bf and he promised that we will be friends. It's just something is making me worried and I am not able to relax.
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I already have depression issues. Please help. The loved one is gone. The relationship is over. I once had an panic attack during school because my best friend started yell I'm at me and told me she doesn't like me and doesn't wanna be friends anymore and at that time I wasn't 13 now I mean 14 and it sad because I don't remember my panic attack Just the first 3 seconds. Dear Jodi. Hello there, So since young I have a fear of having people to leave.
I have been to funerals of my dad's brother, his step mother, my grand aunt and recently to my grandmother's. Their death were all very sudden for me and I used to not know what death was to be honest. I am diagnosed with Anxiety and mild depression but I never told the doctor that I am actually just suffering from fear of losing people around me. Currently, friends and relatives have left me and its an on going cycle for me. And all I have left was my family. I realised that I began to rather stay at home than to go to school because I know my family will return home.
But now, I am even fearing what if they don't come back one day. It keeps me up at night every night and caused me insomnia.
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I have no idea how many times have I broken down in tears this year just fearing the lost of them one day. I was so stuck with myself and could not move on and yet I am also afraid of my family having to leave me. Its like I rather die than to have them leave me but I feel so guilty when I think about suicide because I will be the one leaving my family behind.
I felt like I shouldn't be thinking such things and I feel that if anything, I don't want my family to suffer but I don't want them to leave me too. I feel so horrible and lost. Please tell me what should I do or at least advise me on something. Idk what to do, I feel like god is mad at me for something. Can someone please tell me how to fix this? I lost my mom suddenly 6 months ago. She was in the hospital, but was doing well, about to be discharged.
I was talking to her on the phone that morning, and a couple hours later a nurse was asking me what my mother's last wishes were. She was gone in the next 10 minutes as I dropped to my knees begging God not to take my Mom. We had plans to see each other with in the next month, T Thanksgiving and Christmas were coming. My granddaughter, her great granddaughter was about to turn 3 and was talking like crazy. She was about to meet her one month old great grandson for the first time.
How can she be gone? I miss her so much it hurts. I middle thru most days, push down the tears, seem happy most of the time. But some days, like today, i can't hide it and i cry uncontrollably. How can i get thru the rest of my life without seeing her if 6 months is this hard? My granddaughter is 3 , and anytime I'm not with her, if she goes vto her other Grandmothers or goes shopping with my daughter in law, I have this fear that something awful is going to happen, a car wreck, a stranger taking her, something awful.
Then I'm paralyzed with fear and worry thst the last time I saw her will be it. Did I play with her enough, was I patient enough with her, does she know how much I love her, that I would do anything to protect her and keep her safe I'm drained, anxious, depressed, and don't know what to do. I want to call my mom and I can't. I feel like I have no control over anything. I have always feared of loosing my best friend. I have no idea how to deal with it. She no doubt loves me alot but whenever she makes new friends i m like why she is talking to someone else. I have never been so closed to someone else except her.
I dont even like to socialize after I have met her. I hate talking to people for long time. I want her whole attention all the time but obviously this is impossible. Please tell me what should I do to overcome all this. I needed this article, thank you everyone for sharing your experiences. Much love and peace be with you, Godbless! Sally Johnson. I have a paralyzing fear of losing my family. Three years ago my dad passed 5 days before my birthday. He was my best friend and had a friendship as well as a father daughter relationship and also the birthday before that, I turned 25, and I specifically told them it was the best birthday I had ever had.
They were both happy and came to see me, my husband was there and e erything was perfect so my birthday is always blah.. I'm still all to hell. In June of this year I got the call that my cousin passed away, I was again broken. As if it wasn't hard enough my precious, amazing grandmother passed away the day before we buried my cousin.
My heart is now in pieces and I'm trying to lead a normal life when another death! I got my baby, puppy, Winni, when I was 15 and I am now I have went from a little girl promising her mom she would take care of it and pay for her all by myself to a 29 year old woman who is married and lives in a totally different city and zip code. She was my child, not my dog.
I have had 2 miscarriages and Winni was right there, she was my therapy dog. She got me out of bed, she gave me a purpose, especially in her older years. She was my girl, my ride or die, my soul mate, my baby, the love of my life and she is gone. I literally don't know how to live without her and now I won't have her at my weakest times. I'm so scared and so lost. My family is taking a beating and I'm terrified for what is next. I also have been diagnosed years ago with severe anxiety and depression and it has gotten unbearable with these deaths.
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I have trichotillomania, which means that I pull out my hair. I started after dad, three and a half years ago and it has gotten so bad that I won't answer the door or even walk out of my bedroom without makeup on and my eyebrow colored in. It has progressed into skin picking and I have now scarred my face, especially my eyebrow, a lot will never come back. I have very thick eyebrows so it is very noticeable. This OCD, fear of losing everyone I love and to pain we go through has been too much for me and I'm honestly scared I will become an agoraphobe. This is not a life to live.
I'm sorry, I felt I had to add that. Melissa Edgington. Dear Sally, I hope this article helped you. I know it did help me. I hope that you felt the same peace that I did when it wrote about all of us being connected. We are all just energy. We are made out of molecules that are balls of energy and it is in our brain where we separate ourselves from one another.
You said that your way of life is not a way to live. You should be happy that those people in your life are a part of you and influenced and molded you. Their legacy lives on in you. Energy cannot be created or destroyed and you cannot lose the part of you that is them. I hope this brings you peace.
Try not to be afraid and go out and spread more love with your husband and new friends! I will pray that things look up for you, Sally. Much love, Someone who cares. It has been one of the best decisions I have made. Do research your research before choosing. I would advise meditating. Sally I am so sorry. I can completely relate to you, as i have had a very similar series of events. My thoughts are with you, i promise you will be okay. Sending lots of love your way. My bf told me to order cake for his sister's birthday,I was too late and there's no cake anymore.
I don't want to lose him.. I think he was very angry.. Brandon Gilliand. I'm worried about myself and it really scares the hell out me and what could happen please help. I chanced upon this article because I do encounter such fear recently. What I learnt help best is to be happy and to enjoy the time spent with them tremendously and dont wait until it's too late. I will seize the day I have with my loved ones and stop bickering about the little stuff.
When I get anxious and fear myselfing losing that someone I love, I try to write all the happy things we spent together and are going to spend together. It helps! Try to think positive as much as you can :. For many months now, I have extreme fear of losing my mum and the life I'm having now. My dad passed away for around 7 years and now I only have my mum and elder brother. I don't have a best friend and my mum has been my main pillar of support for every event of my life. I really feel like I will die without her, even as I'm typing this now. I feel suffocated and have a very uncomfortable feeling around my chest just thinking about it.
I will always feel like crying and even throwing up sometimes. Some may say if I can get pass my dad's death, I can get over this as well.
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But no, I know it will definitely be different from losing my dad. My dad was rather irresponsible; he smoked and slept at home all day, my mum even had to pay for his expenses apart from all the food and bills.
There was a time my dad even beat my mum and brother after a quarrel over money. I definitely have a lot of resentment towards my dad, but still I took a very long time to get over his death. If that's the case, I'm not sure if I could even survive without my mum, who sacrifice so much for the family. Right now, my mum is almost 60 but still works as a house cleaner 7 days a week to support our family since my brother is in the uni now. I'm currently working full time but my salary is not that much to support the whole family and the best I could do is reduce my mum's burden by giving her a huge portion of my salary.
I will also help to do as much chores as I could to reduce her work loads. However, I feel like no matter what I do, I will still lose her sooner or later. By the time me and my brother could finally repay her, the time is going to be extremely limited. When I see that my mum is getting so much older and weaker, it just breaks my heart.
I know I shouldn't be so negative and should be cherishing all the moments I have with my love ones instead of griefing over the loss of it in advance, and if I focus so much on the bad things I will not be able to enjoy anything at all but I couldn't help it. Whenever we are having a good time, I will always thought of it ending, and true enough, it ends.
That greatly contributed to my fear and now this fear has really taken over my life. Each passing day is like a nightmare to me, and it's bringing me closer to the end of happiness by force. I can't sleep at night with all these thoughts of losing. I want to stop that, which is why I'm reading this article and many others related to this issue but it didn't seem to help me. I really want to live a normal life like how I used to and enjoy every single day of my life, without having the constant fear that is haunting me now..
I know how do u feel. I live in this constant fear of losing my dad, my mom n my brother. I am so dependent on them it feels like I'm gonna die if I lose em. My parents are not from a really rich family background they worked hard to provide us a better life. My dad is getting old n live in this constant fear of losing him it's like I would completely break apart if something like that happens. Even now when I am writing this I can't stop crying I'm just working hard for them so that I could repay them with all those things that they provided us with. Even now when I am writing this reply I couldn't stop crying.
When I am with them I'm all happy and smiling but when I'm alone I just couldn't stop thinking about this thing that I would lose them someday and I have no clue what would I do when it will actually happen. I don't really get attached to anybody else only because of this reason I don't get indulge into relationships only because of this reason. I have had fear of loosing my near n dear ones from when i was a kid. These days its started to bother me a lot. I am afraid if something might happen to them when they r travelling or going somewhere with other people.
I dont fear my death but i am more worried if something would happen to them. Every time i hear about a death , I tend to imagine myself in that situation and start to worry a lot. It takes away half my happiness and am always worried. I have no idea how to overcome this fear. Im in a relationship of 7 month with my bf we love wach other i had a night out where i was drunk msg d my ex bf felt so guilty told my bf he was very understanding but since im having anexiety and panic attacks bas thoughts i dont wana lose my bf but in same time as hes far away i m afraid to see him and know that this love is gone , confused of having any feeling left to my ex which is never truly had and im the one who ended it plz help what is that im having horrible panic attacks.
My bf and I moved very quickly in our relationship,. We haven't even been together 4 months I've had so much pain and he's been here with me through it all. I think the craziness is what made our relationship move on. The thing is, all of the craziness is making me feel like he might want to run.
How do I mange these feelings? Should I express my fears to him? I am afraid of losing my family. This fear started about two years ago. Now, even thinking that my big sister is gojng to marry and leave us bring me to tears. It's not about death anymore. But I'm sure that death is the biggest problem. Thinking about how my grandma is so old, and that she might die soon breaks me, literally. I unconsciously imagine dad after losing his mom and my aunts as well, I imagine grandma's siblings after the loss.
And the greater, I put myself in that time, like, imagine what would it feel like if she actually died. I don't know if my words make sense, but this fear is just becoming unbearable. Am tabitha i met this guy five months ago we started chatting and became soo close but afraid of meeting him gave many excuses cz i was afraid and did trust him fully cz of my past experiences though he was so sweet and good to me , so i devide to visit him and and had a good time there was a strong connection between us.
Later i told him i lied so he got so mad at me that didnt want to see me does text me or call what can i do am depressed angry at myself inreally want him back. I have a boyfriend. It made me so sad as he never trust me. I wish someone special could say this to me. Every day I wait in the hope that he will, and yet nothing. This poem is everything that I hope for, that I want, and yet I know I will not get To the love of my life, though fate never allowed me to make you my wife. When we met so many years ago, it was love at first sight that I know.
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This is my story. It starts out beautiful and amazing, and like many love stories, it went downhill too fast. During the summer of , I met this most amazing, funny kind, and handsome man! My heart literally hurts. My chest is in pain. Life without you Will never be the same.
I regret the love I lost but never forgot the night we had. Never told her how I felt. I left to go and fight. When I returned she was gone forever, never to have again except for that night Of all the emotions a person can feel, Love is scariest and hardest to heal. Excitement and mystery impossible to resist. Promises of magic perpetually persist. I sit here waiting waiting for you to see that time is running out come on and save me I loved her. I believed that she loved me too. She came to my school in 7th grade. I didn't talk to her that year, but the next year an incident happened.
She forgot to take one of her books I could dream of you forever, But it wouldn't put me beside you. I could call your name on end,. Wow the poem reminds me about my crush, and I had feelings for him for almost 5 years. It's true when the poem said, "I could give up on you, but too much of me still loves you.