She is brilliant and funny and delightful, and she needs time and space to BE those things! Sadly the typical public school curriculum has little if any room for that. She is in a "gifted program" at her school, but this consists of only an hour once a week with other gifted kids. Not much when you think of how many hours she sits in a classroom doing work that she mastered 3 to 4 years ago. She hates the tedious Last year, a five minute homework assignment frequently took hours because she was so task avoidant it would take twenty minutes just to get her name on the paper!
We've made slow and steady progress, but it has NOT been easy! Things we've found useful are small rewards, earned for completing things in a timely manner, also letting her "earn permission to day dream" Gradually the message is getting through. We've shown her that her ideas are terrific, but no one will listen to them if she doesn't show that she can do the "easy stuff" first. Her teacher this year has so far been far more open to working with her, and allowing her places to explore her ideas, and that is monumentally helpful! Above all Sure there are battles and frustrations, but there are infinite rewards to letting them soar to their highest potential!
Mommy, Teacher and Cheerleader -- love my gifted girl! Judy, I do not know where you are from but I have a highly gifted little man who just started 2nd grade, your story reminded me so much of him. I would love to talk to you sometime, I feel so alone at times with him. I feel like the pain in the but at the school because I am so on top of things and fight for him to have all that he deserves there.
Please email me if you ever want to swap stories! Hello Emoly! I'm so sorry that I'm only now seeing your reply! Please feel free to PM me any time I hope things are going well for you and your son! I can't post my email here, site won't allow it Judy, thank you. We have the same exact scenario regarding my 8 year old gifted grandson. Teacher seems to not have a clue or the time to remind him to focus or to limit distractions. He actually failed math this marking period. Yet this teacher wants to fail him even though the ton of incomplete classwork is completed at home and returned.
He must be zoning out during tests and not completing them. I'm so afraid she is going to fail him. We could home school him but I believe socialization with children is important as well.
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My daughter is the same way, the only one with homework. She is one of the youngest in her class. I've known she was special since the day she was born. She has always needed stimulation. She does very well in school. If she gets anything wrong, it's usually because she didn't follow directions, or missed the directions, while the other kids heard them. She bores very easily. We are implementing all of these strategies that are listed in this article, and I just met with her teachers yesterday.
They were very kind and helpful. We know that sleep is so important, but we are still fighting to get it because she is up all night dragging through her homework. Her teachers gave us permission to cut her off, get her to bed, then let them know the next day if homework had to be left incomplete. They also provided a schedule for us to keep a record of her time spent doing homework as a tool. We started using a timer in the bathroom for getting ready, and are just now starting to use it for homework time.
I encourage my daughter to "ultrafocus" for 15 mins then break for 5. My plan is to gradually increase the time. I may even have to start with smaller increments. I have observed her focus for brief periods. I also have a conversation with her and ask her about her needs and how she feels about things.
I try to find ways to help her with which we can both agree. Working harder on being calm, cool, and patient as I struggle to help her. Good luck! Forgot to mention that I am adding an additional outside enrichment activity for math, that she tried out and loved!!! She scored high in her testing years ago, but they would not advance her because she wasn't getting her work done. Then she became bored and hated math.
She also agreed to a reading enrichment program this summer. It is for five Sunday afternoons for an hour and a half, with emphasis on focus, concentration, improving comprehension, reviewing texts, study habits, and speed reading. She enjoys reading, but of course she has no time for reading for pleasure. I'm hoping that these interventions will help increase her efficiency, confidence, and joy.
Her school also provides 8th grade honor student tutors on Monday after school. I just stumbled across this article after googling "distracted children" in desperation this morning. This is my eight year old daughter, a little child who has an amazing memory, but who struggles to focus in school, who has difficulty with paying attention, with organization. I have never thought of her as gifted because she is the epitome of "rabbit trailing" when it comes to conversations. I have taught high school English for sixteen years; I have a masters degree in education, and yet, I do not know how to educate or help my own daughter.
Can any of you help me? I trust that you have gotten some assistance from the other commenter s below. Hope all is well--or improving at the very least! First, get an evaluation from a qualified healthcare professional. This will help you determine if she has ADD or not or something else or a combination. I am a coach for ADD families and offer coaching remotely by phone.
If you want to pursue that, please email me directly at gwilson empowerment-strategies. One thing that discourages me is that my classmates and teachers are always telling me to "focus", all the time, but how does the word "focus" help you actually do the action of focusing? Just nagging your student to focus all day long really doesn't work that well. Should it? Do I have a lack of enough motivation? I'm an eighth grader, a former straight A student, but then I got low grades from many different reasons, none of them were due to lack of studying. Most if them were because I didn't fill out the morning work or didn't follow directions on projects so now I just have A's and B's.
I am disorganized, some might say greatly, but hey, I know my stuff can be two places: either my desk or my backpack. It's also really hard doing my work when everyone else is talking. How can you expect a student to be doing work while people are talking about interesting stuff? That's a silly question. I always want to know what's going on.
I'm very interested and observed in things; I don't like calling that being "easily distracted". Any tips on maybe motivation when someone tells you to focus? I will try to give the teacher my full attention, but then my mind wanders, especially when there's something moving outside my window seat. Usually, involving myself in whatever activity we're learning helps, I'm told I'm a kinesthetic learner , but it's a little bit difficult to do that during a lecture. Eighth grade is such a tough time.
It's good that you recognize that you need to develop better studying habits now. This will help you in high school and beyond. Your story reminded me of ninth grade. My first interim report card, I had a 35 in Spanish. She is seated by the window, in the back. The first thing I would do is ask the teacher to move my chair away from the window, door, or aisle.
The ideal seat for you is directly in front of the teacher. Explain that you are distracted by outside noises and your classmates. Be firm and polite. Express your concern over your grades slipping. Remind them that you have demonstrated the ability to get straight-A's. The next thing I would do is talk to my peers classmates. Describe your dilemma and tell them that you want to know all the juicy gossip and suggest a time where you meet and dish dirt. Set up two or three groups if you must, but your goal here is two-fold: 1 put them on notice that they are distracting you in class; 2 maintain your friendships so they don't sandbag your efforts.
Finally, don't feel that you are too old to use a daily checklist. My almost year old has one. Adults use them regularly but call them 'To Do List'. Create a chart listing the tasks you should do every morning, afternoon, and evening. Post it in a convenient place. Use it for as long as it takes to became habit, but no less than days. Please write back and let us know how you are doing. Like during algebra, I'll blurt out the multiple answers to the problem my teacher is working on as she's going through the process. She'll tell me to stop talking over her, so I do, but then just zone out and miss when my teacher is teaching us new concepts.
I took notes in color. I'm NOT auditory, and that's the only way I could focus on my teacher, digest the material, and retain it. I used different colors to keep myself from being bored, and for easy reference later - it was a huge help in college. Being told to focus is an external cue to you that someones else is noticing that you are not fully engaged.
Hearing those words however will not suddenly cause you to focus, but it does offer a cue to you to 'come back' to the conversation. When you hear that cue, be aware of what it is that was stealing your attention -- was it the guy mowing the lawn outside the window, the sudden outburst of a classmate, your empty stomach growling? If the window offers too many distractions, sit with your back to it. Choose another seat or physically move your chair so your back is to it. Many people have a 'sidebar activity' which when doing this allows them to focus better, like doodling, listening to music, standing or pacing, whatever.
Your job is to figure out what your sidebar is and let your teacher know, then maybe they will accommodate you.
I have a college student client who sits in a yoga pose in the back of a classroom unobtrusively which allows her to focus on the professor's lecture. Once you know how you learn or work best, you can begin to ask others to accommodate that. Many teachers will respect your self-awareness. If you need to move around, how about wiggling your toes inside your shoes?
No one will know and it may be enough to get you back on track. Blurting out answers? Try writing it down or raising your hand to contribute instead. I myself often take notes in a business meeting just to stay awake and focused, not because I need the notes. Find what works for you. Thank you so much for those suggestions!! All that time you spent doing that! You're awesome! I really, really appreciate it!!! The sidebar activity sounds interesting, and I know mine has to do with moving around.
I was assigned a seat in front of a guy who gets angry really easily and is distracted by the slightest sound. He will yell at me when I tap my pencil. All I want to do is move around. There's really no chance we can change seats for a while, either. My teacher also gets frustrated with me.
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I get out of my seat and forget to ask her, and she's also distressed by my backpack because it takes me a through-search of it to find the homework the class is going over. I'm actually doing a deal with my best friend, though. She is going to organize my backpack and my binder she's the smartest in our school and enjoys organizing , and we are going to go the gas station near her piano practice tomorrow, and I'm going to buy her candy as a thank you.
I tried pursuading her to allow me to pay her, but she said friends don't own each other anything. My teacher says that my moving around, talking, and tapping distract other people and that I really should not do those things. I really don't want to distract other people like the guy I sit in front of; I really feel bad, but I also really want to move around.
Do you know a way I could move somehow to something like a constant beat? I love tapping my pencil and hearing the constant sound of. It discourages me that none of my classmates have these problems and just constantly bug me to "Stop! I really thank you for all you've done, StragetyCoach. It makes it more fun instead of boring, old black. Definitely ask your teacher to reassign your seat so that you are not in front of someone else who is easily distracted.
Tapping a pencil can disrupt someone else's attention, so here's a few suggestions If you like to draw, try drawing a picture related to the class topic For the constant beat, see if your teacher will allow you to wear headphones, and if so, put something together in a playlist on itunes or Pandora channel and listen to that.
Otherwise, if they let you carry your cellphone, there are apps that can send you reminders periodically, and if you put your phone on vibrate mode you will 'feel' the beat. This is great for college students but not always permitted in high schools, unless you have an IEP or already get accommodations, you could ask your guidance counselor to help facilitate this with your teachers. Or, see if your medical doctor will write a note to the school to request this for you. It seems clear based on what I read that your taking the time to give such thoughtful responses was indeed helpful.
I wish you much success in what you do. Thanks for the input. I also like to do isometric exercises when I am forced to sit in meetings or through long court proceedings. It's easy, but you should check with your doctor if you have a history of heart disease in your family.
You can also practice deep breathing techniques. Your lungs will thank you. I really have appreciated it. We did move seats in my classroom, and I was moved to the back, which sounds just about the worst possible thing to ever let me do, but let me explain. Right now, though, there are eight people in our class, so four on one side and four on the other. Before, I was just in the corner beside the the window an inch away from someone else and my teacher would get irritable at me because everyone was around me and complaining I was distracting them.
I was in the tightest space where there was absolutely no room for fidgeting, and when I did have to stop fidgeting, it felt as if someone tying my hands behind my back and I would just give up on focusing. The back of our classroom has the most room so I can move around as much as I want, which has really improved my focus.
I still get the concept and have high grades; just the explanation of the problem is lengthy and dreading. I think you chose your seats at my high school, so I could just make sure to get to class early. The isometric exercises sound fun and very helpful. Also, a stress ball is really helpful. She knows movement helps me. Sorry this is so long. I though you all made such an effort to respond to me, it is a must that I should show great respect for all of you.
All of you have been amazing, and I really have appreciated it. Thank you again! I really can't thank you enough! I was thinking Impulsive as well. Impulsive children lack that pause between "think" and "do". Social skills classes are ideal. Manners classes as well. I was blessed with a mother who forced all of her daughters to attend Charm School, though it didn't stick with me. I used to believe that charming was for people who couldn't persuade folks with facts and figures.
I'd also recommend public speaking for her. Since she likes being in charge, put her to the test. Instead of trying to clip her wings so she can fit in with her age group, I would let her fly to find her peers. Your gifted foster child may benefit from self-esteem building. I find a way sent him to uni, not a perfect one but he can be safe there. He tried to transfer to his ideal degree. I have a son in kindergarten. He is able to do 2-digit addition and subtraction mentally.
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